We all want to find our soulmates whom we can spend the rest of our lives with. Some people find their partners easily, and others do not. You may have your heart broken many times before you believe in love again and meet the other half of your soul. As a woman, I had a difficult time to find a man whom I could grow old with. I did not know what true love was until I met my husband. No words can express his love for me, and I have never regretted marrying and calling him my soulmate. He not only shows me love but also makes me become a much better person. Here are what I have learned from my beloved husband.
1. Knowledge is Power
My husband values education a lot. Therefore, he is consistently learning to improve himself and gain knowledge. On the other hand, before marriage, I understood the importance of education. I knew I had to go to college because it could help me get good jobs and earn people’s respect. I got my first bachelor’s degree. That was it. I stopped learning and focused on making money. I never thought that I would take any additional courses or get any certificates to improve my skills because 16 years of education were more than enough for me. However, it has changed since I met my husband.
He once told me, “Knowledge is power.” It is right. When you educate yourself and know what you are doing or saying, you are in control, and nobody can screw you over.
Imagine you are an American business owner, and you want to make an agreement with your Japanese counterparts. You know that you need to build rapport with them to make the negotiation easier. American business people prefer to create a friendly atmosphere in meetings or negotiations by asking personal questions. Do you think you can use the same technique to your Japanese counterparts? The answer is no because each country has its own culture. Japanese business people do not like to talk about their private lives and issues (Deresky, 2017). As a result, if you do not educate yourself about Japanese business etiquette, you will be unable to build rapport appropriately, which can lead to the failure of the negotiation.
My husband has helped me understand the true meaning of education. I can use my knowledge to be a queen or let other people use their knowledge to make me become their slave. It all depends on me. Same as you, you can choose to educate yourself to be successful or ignore the importance of gaining knowledge. It all depends on you.
2. Giving and Taking
I had no idea what the Universe was before I met my husband. I did not pay attention to what was going on around me. Hence, I missed the beauty of the Universe.
My husband once told me, “The Universe is about giving and taking.” I have learned that everything happens for a reason, and it is the result of how much you give and take from the Universe. For example, my husband got his bachelor’s degree with a 4.0 GPA. He had to give the Universe his time and effort when taking classes in order to receive a 4.0 GPA. If he did not spend hours on doing assignments or put a lot of effort into them, he would never achieve “Summa Cum Laude” on his degree.
As humans, we prefer taking to giving. It feels good when receiving something (for free) and hurtful when losing them. We do not want to give back because of our selfishness. However, we do not know that balancing things out is one of the Universe’s main jobs. The Universe takes a thing from a person to give it to another and vice versa. Nothing is free. Hence, we will need to pay interest rates or additional fees to the Universe. In other words, we will give more than we took if the Universe is involved in this “transaction.” Therefore, either we volunteer to give things back or the Universe will do it for us sooner or later.
I have learned and realized how important it is to give and take in life thanks to my husband. Thus, I feel better when I can give back and help people because I am going with the flow of the Universe.
3. Always Do Your Best
Before marriage, I did not always try my best to do what I did not like. I tended to give up when things were too difficult. Nevertheless, my husband has slowly changed this bad side of me. He always does his best in every situation. No matter what it is, he always shows me and other people his effort and care by giving more than what he has. Therefore, everybody likes him, especially his employers and customers.
If you ask my husband a question, and he does not know the answer, he will look for it. How my husband created www.mindpho.com can be an example. He did not know much about making a website. He did research and spent weeks to learn and create MindPho. We could have hired someone, but my husband decided to do it on his own. Now he knows a lot about web development and design. He is also a person who maintains MindPho. He gave me his best, although his expertise was not in web development and design. I am so proud of him and happy with MindPho. If you think this website is great, please feel free to shoot him an email at admin@mindpho.com to let him know how amazing he is :).
I believe doing his best helps my husband stand out and makes people value him more. Also, you will not feel guilty or regret if the result is not what you expected because you know you did your best. Therefore, it will be easier to move forward in life.
My husband has taught me a lot of valuable things. However, these are three big things that I have learned from him. They have changed my life. My husband has been doing a great job making me become a better person. I am so lucky to be his wife.
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Reference
Deresky, H. (2017). International management: Managing across borders and cultures (9th ed.). Pearson.
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